HOW TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP SUCCESSFUL
Relationships are not child's play, and they definitely not what Disney portrays. Where you just meet and a few seconds later you are in love, where you never argue and always appreciating each other. If you still having that mind set then chances are your relationship might not work. Because once reality sets you would run away to find that perfect relationship portrayed by Disney.
In a relationship, you need Communication, Appreciation, Trust,Perseverance , Interdependence, Positivity, and mostly Honesty to truly grow. See a relationship is like a rubber band, in which both partners are holding each end and stretching it, once one person gives up the other person gets hurt.
Communication: Communication is the key to a successful relationship, if you can not freely talk with your spouse about your day, things bothering you, how you really feel? then something is wrong somewhere. Neither you nor your partner is a mind reader, dont think "Oh he will get the idea" no because then he or she might misinterpret.
Appreciation: Always, Always, Always Always appreciate them. no matter what, even if its just one kobo they can afford to give you appreciate it. The worst thing you can do is make your spouse feel less than themselves. Never compare him/she with another person. Never push them to do more than they are capable. He cant afford Brazilian hair? braid your hair. A wise woman helps her man to build his future not lavish the little money he has.
Trust: Trust is like a mirror, once its broken, it can be fixed but the cracks will always remain. Never give them any reason to doubt you. Be so open with them that if someone says you did or said something they would never believe.
Perseverance: Yes you have to persevere, a relationship is not easy especially when you want it to lead to somewhere. A relationship is like a plant, you have to take care of it, never give up on it, and it will grow. Dont run away when it is time to really show how much you care about the relationship working.
Interdependence: You have to be independent yet together, this means having time for your self yet having time for your selves, the key is finding the right balance. Be involved with each other in a supportive manner without losing your self or values.
Positivity: Never speak negatively to your spouse, never tell him " Oh look at Nkechi, her boyfriend buys her everything she wants, you are just useless, cant even afford to take me to mama put" and never tell her " Look to Sam, his girlfriend does anything in bed for him, you just be doing holy holy" Thats not a way to speak to someone you claim to love. Never try to change someone, if they not ready then they not ready, they have their reasons which you may not understand, and never make your man feel worthless, always encourage him and speak positively. even if he is not fine make him feel like the most handsome.
Honesty: And finally honesty, I always try my best to not lie to anyone in day one, because if you lie once, any other thing you say would be taken as a lie. No matter what never lie, it is better for them to find out the truth from you than from outside.
These are just a few things i feel would help a relationship grow, do you have more to share? Please leave it in the comment below, might just help someone somehow
